Welcome to Holland by Emily Perl Kingsley. c1987 by Emily Perl Kingsley. All rights reserved.

I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability- to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this...

When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip- to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.

After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."

"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."

But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.

The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.

So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.

It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills... and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.

But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say, "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."

And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away... because the loss of that dream is a very, very significant loss.

But... if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things... about Holland.

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

Arizona

We had the best time in Arizona!  We didn’t go to Buckeye this time, my parents weren’t going to be there and we only had a few days away so we just went straight to Thatcher to spend as much time as we could with Grandma.  It was the perfect time to go.  The weather was beautiful!  My boys played outside in Grandma’s back yard the entire time.  Grandma looked really good.  She does really well for being 97 years old!  Such a sweetheart.  She loved seeing the boys and having some company.  She was worried about the boys forgetting her, but who could possibly forget Grandma?!?  They talk about her all the time.  It makes me so happy to know that my boys had the opportunity to know this jewel of a woman. I hope they treasure their time with her, I know I do! 

Another fun thing about this time of year is the COTTON!  It’s harvest time!  This is the time of year they pick the cotton.  It was so beautiful!  All the white fields everywhere!  It was so fun to see all the pickers in the fields and all the big bales of cotton.  Took me back to my childhood when I would play in those for as long as my dad would let me.  We took Grandma on a drive around the fields so she could see and we were able to catch Lance on one of the pickers in a field they planted for a study at the University.  Will wanted to get in the picker with Lance but he had someone from the University in the cab with him.  Maybe next time!  Lance stopped and got out for a minute to talk to us and Will was so interested to know how it all works and probably more interested in how the picker runs from a satellite!  lol!  Will loves equipment!  But really, he was so intrigued about the cotton that on our way home he looked at me and said, “I should have been a farmer.”  I told him he was about 12 years too late!  Dad’s already sold all of his farm land, unless he wants to learn about grapes!  ha-ha!  From the fields in Thatcher, we drove to Solomon to see the fields there and we ran into Adam in the truck and Uncle Denny in the tractor.  We talked to Adam for a minute then decided to make our way back to Grandma’s house so she could have her nap.  I got to thinking about it on the way back and I regret not having an appreciation for what my dad did all those years.  I sure do now!  That is really neat stuff!  It makes me proud to come from a family that made such significant contributions to the farming industry, especially cotton, and helped it become what it is today.  There have been six generations of Laytons that have farmed in Thatcher! 

On our last day there, we went to lunch at Casa with Aunt Paula and Uncle Denny and that is always fun. Paula told us that she had a brand new tree house in her yard and invited the boys to come play.  They were really excited about that!  We headed over there that evening and the boys played more in the corn field than in the tree house!  We picked a big box of corn to take home and then on the way out Paula told us to take a big 50 pound sack of pinto beans too!  We can live on corn and pinto beans for the next year!!!!!!  Thank you to Paula and Denny! 

We really had a great time.  I hope we can go again soon!  I love it there! 

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With the beautiful Gila Valley Temple in the background! 

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Look at sweet little Mitch!  This is the best picture!

We got a few shots of the beautiful scenery on the way home.

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Sunday, September 18, 2011

Family pics

I love this time of year.  We always do our family pictures in September and I look forward to it every year.  I get to see our dear friend, Chrissy, who also happens to be an amazing photographer and spend time with my favorite people having the most fun.  We had an especially good time this year.  I think we are just savoring those last few days with Will before he leaves for work.  Enjoying every moment together which made this shoot so special.  We had no stressful fights about what to wear or where to go, it was just FUN!  I loved how they turned out.  Chrissy is so talented.  We appreciate her so much for doing this for us every year.  Did I mention we had SO MUCH FUN?!?

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Seriously, there are so many more.  They all turned out so great.  Thanks for such a good time:)

School

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Maddock LOVES his 2nd grade teacher, Miss Nelson.  He always says how much fun she is.  I love that he loves school.  He is so excited about it.  I can only hope that this feeling continues but I know it is still very early in his school years.  haha. 

Now here comes trouble….

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Their poor teacher:)

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