Welcome to Holland by Emily Perl Kingsley. c1987 by Emily Perl Kingsley. All rights reserved.

I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability- to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this...

When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip- to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.

After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."

"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."

But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.

The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.

So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.

It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills... and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.

But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say, "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."

And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away... because the loss of that dream is a very, very significant loss.

But... if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things... about Holland.

Thursday, July 7, 2011

Another year…

Well, another year has passed.  I am one year older… I just want to put the brakes on!  Why does it seem to go by so much faster as we get older.  It makes me sad because I know in a blink of an eye, my kids will be grown and I will have grey hair saying, where did the years go?  Anyway, we had a great 4th this year.  My day started off with breakfast in bed.  My boys spoil me!  I am so lucky!  My niece, Megan, is here going to school at BYU (GO MEGS!) so she came down and spent the day with us. That was really sweet of her.  We went swimming at the Spanish Fork pool and that was fun for the boys, especially Mitch.  As you know, that is his favorite thing to do!  No pictures though, I was an idiot and forgot my camera.  In fact, I didn’t get many pictures of anything now that I think about it.  I used to be the most camera happy fool, I don’t know what has happened to me!?!    We had a barbeque later that evening.  Lindsey and her girls came for that and the kids had fun playing.  Then of course, we let off some fireworks!  My favorite part!  My neighborhood went all out this year.  It was so fun!  It was like our own private viewing of Stadium of Fire!  lol! 

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Tuesday, July 5, 2011

Guess where?

So right after school got out, we skipped town again!  We made a little detour this time though.  I dropped Will off at my parents house in Arizona and my mom and I headed to their house in San Diego!  It was so much fun!  It’s kind of interesting staying at their house in Arizona because its not finished yet so it’s like camping… you have to cook all of your food in the barbeque grill out side or go out to eat.  Only one bathroom works and no furniture, except for the random chairs and couches down stairs and in the “hang out” by the kitchen.  I don’t even know what to call it because it was an outdoor patio before.  Lots of changes in their house but very cool.  (when it is finished)  My boys love it, of course.  They love going on desert hikes with Grandpa and riding the four wheelers.  They love camping!  What boy doesn’t?  I love going home.  This is the home I grew up in so of course I love to go back home.

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In San Diego, mom and I took the boys back to Old Town because it was so fun and we didn’t go to the Mormon Battalion Museum last time we went.  We really wanted to see that and it was definitely worth seeing!

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Maddock volunteered to be a soldier…

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Then afterward, they got to pan for gold! 

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Maddock’s last day of school

They put on plays the last day of school.  Maddock was the troll in the 3 goats gruff.  It was so cute.  He is getting so big, I can’t believe he is going to be in 2nd grade!

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He had a great year!  His teacher, Mrs. Jensen was awesome.  He loved her!

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Will and I went to the U2 concert for our anniversary.  Seriously the best concert I’ve ever seen!  So worth going!  We had so much fun.

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Too fun!  The BEST!

A few random things…

My soccer dude

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Watch out for that bear!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  RRRRRROOOOAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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We went to the Monte L. Bean Life Science Museum one rainy day… talk about great free entertainment for the kids!  LOL.  Run Madd, Run!

I had to take the boys with me to Mitch’s PT one day….

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Mitch’s Prom

This was the cutest thing I have EVER seen!   They had a full on PROM at Mitch’s school.  Everyone, no matter the age, got to go.  Everyone got all dressed up, they even had a team from a local salon come to the school and do hair and makeup for anyone that wanted it.  It was so fun.  Mitch had a good time.  I had the most fun watching everyone.  The place was all decorated to the hilt!  With a disco ball to boot!  I love this school and all they do for these kids so that they can have these fun experiences.
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So handsome… You can’t really see it but he has a tie on.  Mitch is the only boy in his class so he gets a lot of attention from all the girls… and he LOVES it.  He’s always been a ladies man.
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Mitch and I dancing.
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Mitch dancing with his intervener, Jolyn
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Here he is walking down the hall!  So impressive!  He’s getting so strong!
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