Welcome to Holland: Tradework

I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability- to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this...

When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip- to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.

After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."

"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."

But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.

The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.

So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.

It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills... and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.

But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say, "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."

And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away... because the loss of that dream is a very, very significant loss.

But... if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things... about Holland.

Friday, July 30, 2010

Tradework

The great thing about Will working in construction is TRADEWORK! Three years ago Will wired Wes' house out in Vernal and they worked a deal. Will traded electrical work for tile work :) Wes has been waiting on us that long to finish his part of the deal. He will come back next week to grout and finish it. BTW ladies... Wes happens to be VERY good looking, I will only charge 5 bucks if you want to come watch :) lol! jk! I am so happy because otherwise we would not get this done! NO MONEY! We need the room! Everything that is left in the basement has been traded except for the paint so I will have to get down there with my trusty paint brush... (we'll see how that turns out) stay tuned!

this is the tile in the bathrooms

it looks great with the concrete floors... brings out the brown stain :)

we also added a back splash in the kitchen

there was too big of a gap between the wall and the counter top to remove the small piece of granite but oh well :) can't wait to build a house someday