Welcome to Holland: It's QUIET!

I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability- to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this...

When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip- to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.

After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."

"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."

But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.

The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.

So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.

It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills... and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.

But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say, "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."

And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away... because the loss of that dream is a very, very significant loss.

But... if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things... about Holland.

Thursday, August 26, 2010

It's QUIET!

Today was Mitch's first day of school. I hope I didn't send him too soon. I actually felt guilty for keeping him home any longer because he loves school so much. I think he was happy to be there, everyone at his school was happy to have him back. They love Mitch and he loves them. It is such a special place. I have missed going there every day, I walk out of there with a huge smile on my face every morning. I just can't help it. Those people are amazing and the kids are so fun to watch. One of the girls came in off the bus throwing the biggest fit you've ever seen and I joked that I wished Mitch would act like that because at least then I would know he likes it at home more than school :) Haha! Thats ok, I love that Mitch loves school! It makes me happy :) It sure is quiet around here though. Just little Roo and I left.

Here is Mitch out in front of his school

Mitch with his principle, Dr. Kay. This man is the reason I switched Mitch to this school. He is absolutely amazing! He loves these kids with all his heart and fights for them to have anything they need.